After my death our beloved Church abroad will break three ways ... first the Greeks will leave us as they were never a part of us ... then those who live for this world and its glory will go to Moscow ... what will remain will be those souls faithful to Christ and His Church. ~St. Philaret of NY


Narcissistic Personality Disorder

from Joanna's notepad
misc. quotes from the internet...

It's about control.  They threaten to complain to your superiors about you, or to have you arrested, or to sue you; and they are very capable of carrying out their threats, they will self-destruct and burn bridges (example: divorce) to prove their point.

NPD's hate people who ignore them or laugh at them, who see through them. They will become aggressive, ... NPDs who are in Narcissistic rage, angry at being unmasked. I have never seen a NPD give up a source of supply willingly [a supply source is someone who gives them attention/servitude].  

A NPD on a rampage is dangerous, they are calculating and vengeful - any slight they feel they have suffered has to be punished. Think of how a spoiled child acts and you will understand NPD rage.

Just don't think you can win by playing by their rules - they make up the rules to their games.  The Narcissist will fight you tooth and nail to win.  They will never forgive you for besting them. 

... warning signs such as a persistent and recurrent inability to get along with all coworkers; a domineering sense of entitlement; unrealistic and grandiose fantasies; requiring excessive attention; responding with rage to criticism or disagreement; exploitativeness; lack of empathy. Pathological narcissism rarely manifests in a first encounter—but is invariably revealed later on.

"These people can come on as confident and attractive, but you don't see the negative parts of their personalities until later," said Keith Campbell, assistant professor of psychology at UGA. "It doesn't seem possible that they can betray a relationship as flagrantly as they can. But they do."

Give a narcissist a microphone and they will hog it. 

Narcissists like to associate with important, rich or famous people [or bishops?]

Charming, arrogant, snob, name dropper, shallow, sly, self serving, assertive, socially poised, confident, hero, hero worshiper, bully, actor, verbose, cliquish, controlling, stud, unfaithful, born leader, brain, charismatic, conniving, convincing, living in fantasy world, vain, superior, arrogant, brash, ego centric, unpleasant, condescending, power-seeking, devious, patronizing, nasty spoiled kid, impeccable manners, offish, driven, innovative, disruptive, jealous, clannish, cliquish, gossipy, best friend, worst enemy, effusive, complimentary, critical, back stabbing, selfish, self centered, self important, spotlight hog, ignores other people's feelings, know it all, bully, liar, manipulator, always right, never apologizes, spoiled, intelligent, demands immediate recognition and service, preferential treatment, throws tantrums, over bearing, can switch from being super nice to nasty in a second, acts like a queen or princess if a woman, or like a super macho if a man, Fame junkies. They are obsessed with the fantasy of unlimited success, power, brilliance and ideal love and beauty. They only associate with important people. They lack affect, they often look into mirrors...

Some narcissists use lawsuits as a form of communication. Say "No" to a narcissist enough times by word and/or deed (especially when you are right and telling the truth) and if you refuse to comply to his outrageous demands, he/she will sue you. The narcissist must always get his way. There are narcissists equipped with small armies of attorneys who are ready at any time to initiate a legal suit against their "enemies." Narcissists are infamous for hiring legal experts who will find the precise loophole that they can use to destroy your valid case against them. When you try to fight this, they threaten to counter sue, knowing there is no way that you cannot afford to lawyer-up sufficiently to win your case. This is a stark injustice but true. 

Limit your interactions with narcissists. This is quite a challenge; we live in a world populated by a growing number of  these personality disorders. Assess if the narcissist you are dealing with has a history of  initiating unjust lawsuits. Learn how to skillfully identify the narcissistic personality so you know the kind of individual you have on your hands. If you must respond to a narcissist through the legal system, be sure that your attorney is not only highly experienced in a specific area of the law, but in addition has solid knowledge of and experience in dealing with narcissistic personalities


mmcxristidis said...

Wow! this sounds just like a well known internet personality I know who always seems to be putting in his five cents everywhere online, acting the expert, throwing around long winded explanations (excuses). Telling members of other jurisdictions than his own what to believe and how to act as an Orthodox Christian, which when challenged reveals his psychotic anger. Unfortunately for him, and anyone who falls for his act, he himself is in a pseudo-Orthodox vagante group with questionable grace. I would like to name him and his group,however, should I dare, I may be threatened with a vagante type of lawsuit.

Joanna Higginbotham said...

He's so vain, he probably thinks this post is about him.

Joanna Higginbotham said...


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